domingo, 7 de febrero de 2010
The word of which I was really thinking was empowerment. Those old ladies really got empowered by embracing their nudity. Yes, flesh sells and they became famous. Yet they were empowered, not by their fame or the money they raised, but rather by the very act of accepting their bodies. Of course, their inspiration played a role also. They embraced their nudity because they believed the words of John Baker, that flowers look more beautiful in their last stage. John Baker died of leukemia shortly after writing those words and the widow and her friends created a calendar featuring their naked bodies creatively posing behind flowers, pots, baked goods and the like, in order to raise funds to buy a new sofa for the relatives’ room at the hospital where John died. The calendar raised more than expected and they were able to make substantial donations for research to find a cure for leukemia.
Empowerment was what made Ruth confront her husband and his lover and let them be while she flew to Hollywood to appear in Leno’s show. After that moment she looked prettier and happier. Good for her. No begging him to stay with her, no scenes of jealousy wife, no crying in front of him. Ok, maybe the movie showed her in denial but she certainly did right in accepting herself and moving on. She even said that maybe she was dead before but not anymore.
Empowerment was what made Chris move the calendar, find sponsors, and become an entrepreneur in a sense. That had a cost for her family. In that sense the movie was more realistic. However her husband was so understanding that I wondered if men like him really exist. He was more than understanding; he was supportive. He told her he wanted her to have all that. She wanted her to get all the attention and busy life she got because of the calendar. It takes a very secure man to want his wife to have all that.
My son was right. I learned from the movie. I wish all the women in the world would learn too about empowerment and accepting one’s body. I wish all of us could celebrate our bodies and the beauty of a real un-retouched naked body without exploitation, without false expectations, without unrealistic standards, without abuse or violence. I wish all of us could experience empowerment.
sábado, 6 de febrero de 2010
How does a woman let a man get into her head to the point she doubts her own sanity?
How does a man manage to blame her wife of his infidelity? Does he really believe it is her fault? He said he did it because of her suggestion of having an abortion of their third and unplanned child. Yet, he didn’t know his wife was pregnant when he was unfaithful to her. He didn’t know about her desire to have an abortion when he was unfaithful again.
Why do we do this to each other? Why can’t just be totally honest? She asked him for the truth: “Do you really want another child?” He was unable to respond with the truth. Instead he accused her of being insane and offered to pay for psychological therapy.
She was trying to be a team. He was trying to be the man. And both of them were doomed to remain living without living because of the decisions he made alone. And what chances did she have back then? What chances do women have now? If it’s not a life, why stay? But, what’s a life? What does it mean to really experience and enjoy life? What is life in fullness?
At the end, as he made his decision alone, she made her decision alone. At the end, she wanted to be free and she risked her life to be it. At the end, she was free but only by her death.